Singing- Your Dream vs. Your Self-Talk
"Eliminating The Inner Enemy"
Singing can be a perilous experience. You have hopes and dreams. You invest your heart in some amazing fantasies. There are icons out there who you idolize. You’ve seen them in concert, listened to their Cds, watched them on TV, heard them interviewed, and you want to be just like them. Can you do what it takes to get there?
Each and every artist who you idolize did not get there overnight. Just the making of their CD took a year or more and it probably wasn’t their first recording. They’ve had coaching, very specific training, and usually a group of individuals helping to lead them to that successful location where you and millions of others noticed them. They have worked hard to reach that height and it usually hasn’t come easy.
So when you commit to a dream, to a lofty goal, let some realism in. Create a timeline that is doable. This is not the stuff of Fairy Godmothers and magic wands. It is the result of voice lessons, performance coaching, dance lessons, maybe some acting lessons, and not for just a few weeks, but over a significant amount of time. I’m talking about years not months. It is a lot of work. It is also worth every minute of it.
Along the way, however, you’ve got a job that is more important than all the hard physical work. It’s harder than daily vocalization and technique training, working on body awareness and gesturing, or learning how to project yourself out in space to fill a room and become a larger-than-life presence on the stage. During all your hard work, assuming you don’t believe you are going to daydream yourself to success, there is one consistently challenging element you will face, and please don’t minimize it. That element is yourself, your mindset. We’ll call it your self-talk.
What you truly believe about yourself is more important than any work or training that you do. And when I say believe, I don’t mean what you attempt to talk yourself into, but what you really believe at the core level of your being. If your dream is to be a music performer and recording star but down deep inside you don’t believe you could possibly accomplish that, then you probably won’t. Your self-talk will trump a hope or dream every time. So what do you do when your dream and your belief are out of alignment with each other?
One of the interesting things about how our beliefs are wired is that we are very susceptible to demonstration. Each time we slightly exceed our belief or expectation, that belief or expectation stretches or grows. That gives us an amazing opportunity to blow through our limiting thinking, but it probably can’t happen overnight. While there are situations in voice training and singing lessons where a student had no idea how incorrectly they were doing something and a minor correction created an almost immediate improvement, most breakthroughs are earned through hard work. Slow and steady wins the race.
The important point here is to give yourself room within your self-talk to grow through an apparently limiting situation. Your biggest enemy is the thought, “I can’t do that.” Almost everything that a human being can do, we didn’t do as well the first time we tried it as we did the 100th time, or the 1000th time. The more we try it, the better we will get, especially if during our trying we incorporate some very specific and focused training. Our singing teacher will show us the best way to do everything related to singing, and if we have the talent, the hope and dream, the positive self-talk, the drive, and the willingness to work, everything is possible.
If you are looking for a teacher who can help you coordinate your talent, dream, motivation, and self-talk, we recommend contacting the Singing Lesson Expert.